and may be given to anyone. A bow or lifted hat should never be refused to anyone who thinks he recognizes you. He may be mistaken, and if he is he would feel humiliated by the snub.
When a gentleman is with a lady, he takes the outside of the walk because that is the most exposed place. He does not offer his arm unless the lady is old or lame, or it is after night and she is in About Offering One's Arm danger of being separated from him or jostled in a crowd. Women are not the delicate, helpless creatures they were once thought to be. A child, an old person of either sex or a blind or crippled man should be helped, when they need to be, in crossing streets or entering and leaving cars. A question from a stranger should be answered civilly, and you may ask directions of anyone politely. If you can do so, it is best to appeal to policemen, car-conductors, or go into a corner drug store.
WHEN OTHER PEOPLE ARE ILL BRED.
Never resent the behavior of an ill-bred stranger. If he wants more than half the road, give it to him. Lincoln once said: "If a man won't turn out for me I turn out for him. This keeps the peace and expedites travel." Remember, no one can insult you. He can simply show his own bad manners. But no man or boy should stand by and see a bully abuse an animal, a child or other defenseless person. Make him stop if you are big enough. If not, call for help or a policeman.
PROPER BEHAVIOR IN PUBLIC CONVEYANCES.
A gentleman who enters a street car with a lady, helps her up the steps and follows her. In leaving a car he gets off first and helps her down. He gives her the inside seat next the window, and facing forward, and pays her fare. But if she is not the guest of another person, a lady should pay her own fare. Two ladies should not squabble over who pays the fare. It simply makes them conspicuous. Have your fare ready for the conductor and ask for a transfer or for information quietly but distinctly. The car makes a good deal of noise. This is a good rule, too, in thanking anyone who offers you his seat. You should not be willing to accept a favor from anyone without thanking him, audibly and pleasantly.
