Moral Pieces, in Prose and Verse/On Modesty
ON MODESTY.
MODESTY, considered as proceeding from inward purity, and correct intentions, claims a high rank among the virtues. Viewed in its effects upon the manners and the deportment, it ranks equally among the graces. It is an essential part of the female character, and the essence of feminine attraction. "Without it, there may be regularity of features, but no beauty; symmetry of form, but no grace; brilliancy of wit, but the heart will refuse its approbation. A pleasing exterior, and elegant accomplishments will fail to delight, if they are seen united with an unblushing front, and a forward demeanor. These in the other sex are displeasing; in ours, insupportable.
But that modesty, which it is desirable to possess, differs extremely from bashfulness, and from false delicacy. One is the excess of diffidence, and may exist without modesty; the other is the counterfeit of modesty, always liable to suspicion, easily detected, and assumed to conceal radical defects. Real modesty is the offspring of merit and of humility. It is frequently united with great abilities, and great acquirements, but it seeks not to display its excellencies; does not court the notice of others. It is "not obvious, not intrusive," as one fine writer has expressed himself; and another has called it "the sanctity of manners." That these concise and beautiful delineations of modesty may apply to each of you, united with every amiable virtue, and laudable feminine attraction, is the sincere wish of your friend.