Page:Advice to young ladies on their duties and conduct in life - Arthur - 1849.djvu/125

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CONDUCT TOWARDS PARENTS.
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no way diminishes his respect for his earthly parents, but increases it. He no longer obeys them because they command obedience, but he regards the truth of their precepts, and in that truth hears the voice of God speaking to him. More than ever is he now careful to listen to their wise counsels, because he perceives in them the authority of reason, which is the authority of God.

Most young ladies, on attaining the age of responsibility, will perceive a difference in the manner of their parents. Instead of opposing them, as heretofore, with authority, they will oppose them with reason, where opposition is deemed necessary. The mother, instead of saying, when she disapproves any thing, “No, my child, you cannot do it;” or, “No, you must not go, dear;” will say, “I would rather not have you do so;” or, “I do not approve of your going.” If you ask her reasons, she will state them, and endeavor to make you comprehend their force. It is far too often the case, that the daughter’s desire to do what her mother disapproves is so active, that neither her mother’s objections nor reasons are strong enough to counteract her wishes, and she follows her own inclinations instead of being guided by her mother’s better judgment. In these instances,