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consecrated to it a specific term. Thus, in all languages, we find maternal as opposed to paternal love. We have shown that this love is innate with woman.

Of love as between the sexes, that "compound of esteem, benevolence, and animal desire," as "Webster coldly defines it, or, as Shakespeare hath it,

"It is to be all made of sighs and tears;
It is to be all made of faith and service;
It is to be all made of fantasy,
All made of passion and all made of wishes;
All adoration, duty, and observance,
All humbleness, all patience and impatience.
All purity, all trial, all observance" —

of this love, a word shows the enormous difference between that of woman and that of man. The one says, "I am yours;" the other, "She is mine." There is all the differ- ence between giving and receiving. If we analyze our masculine love severely, we find therein many foreign elements. Vanity and sexual desire monopolize three- fourths, while the remainder always finds space for dreams of ambition or of glory. The artist, the man of letters, and the speculator remain such in becoming lovers. It is at the side of the loved one that they lament their defeats or boast of their triumphs. To quote Byron,

"Man's love is of man's life a thing apart —
'Tis woman's whole existence."

Love, in fact, takes root so deeply in the heart of woman that it fills her entire being. It even regenerates her. When the coquette loves there is an end of coquetry. Even lost women have suddenly recovered modesty and the very delicacy of affection under the influence of love. But, if a corrupt man falls in love with a pure young girl, he endeavors to corrupt her also I Should chance or