The Truth about Marriage/Chapter23
CHAPTER XXIII
WHERE CAN I FIND MY MATE?
Any kind of social gathering is a good place to meet those of the opposite sex. The social side of church life is a good place to see and be seen. We think that one ought to go to church for the sake of religion, and so one ought, but it is in just such places that one is apt to meet the right kind of a person to marry. And I am sure the Lord will not hold it against any young woman or young man if one thinks of the charms of those of the other sex, even though it be in a place of religion.
In fact, I feel certain that the ruler of universal human life is deeply interested in the right kind of young people meeting each other with a view to a happy marriage.
Many young people go to public dance halls for the sake of meeting interesting people of the opposite sex. The trouble about such places is the danger of meeting people whom one would not want to admit to one's home, still less into one's more intimate life.
One has to be on one's guard all the time against people that do not measure up to proper standards of conduct and character. Young people are often easily deceived by appearances.
But in general, young people of both sexes ought to go where they can meet those of the opposite sex, the better the place the better the chance of meeting the right kind of people.
Do not be too exclusive in your attitude and manner, and yet do not hold yourself cheaply, so that you will not be appreciated in the right way. Always have in mind that the girl who shuts herself away from the crowds is not apt to be seen. And one must be seen to be appreciated.